It is true what they say that fear has big eyes. We are afraid to step on a rake, make mis­takes and get neg­a­tive expe­ri­ences: bad shots, dis­sat­is­fied clients, dis­sat­is­fac­tion with our­selves. Nobody wants to face this. Recent­ly I had just such a shoot. I do not del­e­gate respon­si­bil­i­ty: there were jambs both on my part and on the part of cus­tomers. The mod­els did not lis­ten to the rec­om­men­da­tions on cloth­ing at all (which they them­selves were dis­sat­is­fied with lat­er), were strong­ly clamped, and one of the filmed ones even gave out the emo­tion “why did I come here?” In some places. As a result, I didn’t man­age to find the right key to each per­son, and I also didn’t work well in one of the loca­tions. As a result — medi­oc­rity and dis­con­tent after.

As a result: this is one of those shoots that will not go any­where, I have a bad after­taste, peo­ple do too. Neg­a­tive sched­ule. But there is no road with­out bumps, and I need­ed this shoot­ing. Mis­takes are worth mak­ing and here’s why it’s impor­tant, in three points.

Pho­to: otroshko.ru

1. Bad expe­ri­ences are sober­ing

Neg­a­tive expe­ri­ence in any man­i­fes­ta­tion is like a slap in the face, sober­ing. I am not even afraid of such a the­sis that every­one needs it soon­er or lat­er. Even top pho­tog­ra­phers who make no mis­takes. This is an occa­sion to look around, to remem­ber who you are, where and why you are fol­low­ing this path.

As the St. Peters­burg pho­tog­ra­ph­er Masha Pavlovskaya notes:

I observe how peo­ple often praise my not the best work out of iner­tia, as if keep­ing in mind that I am, in prin­ci­ple, a good pho­tog­ra­ph­er (I am, but I also have unsuc­cess­ful shoot­ings). In a sense, I am grate­ful to those who dare to open­ly express their opin­ion, because it gives me the oppor­tu­ni­ty to main­tain an objec­tive pic­ture of the world and self-per­cep­tion …> this is not a sen­tence or a tragedy, but food for thought

Almost like a rep­e­ti­tion at the end of a chap­ter in a school text­book: it’s time to remem­ber every­thing once again, all the mate­r­i­al, your path and your­self on it.

Pho­to: krasivodel.ru

2. Support for the future

In psy­chol­o­gy, it is gen­er­al­ly accept­ed that there are no neg­a­tive expe­ri­ences. Any expe­ri­ence is an expe­ri­ence. Yes, even the case when you were fired a week after being hired. Such cas­es teach and give sup­port in the future. You will already know what not to do.

Mis­takes and blots dur­ing shoot­ing are unpleas­ant, but they will teach. Expe­ri­ence teach­es you to keep in mind as many details as pos­si­ble, like a mas­ter wait­er who car­ries 10 plates at once. And each of them is giv­en the nec­es­sary atten­tion, not one will fall.

The exam­ple with the wait­er helps to put on the shelves spe­cif­ic fail­ures on the set: those plates that even­tu­al­ly fell or, at least, stag­gered, are the ones worth pay­ing atten­tion to. Poor light­ing? So, you need to immerse your­self in work­ing with him again. Did­n’t reveal the per­son? Remem­ber every­thing you read about work­ing with peo­ple in front of the cam­era. Bad pos­es? Time to once again go through the lay­outs of the per­son in the frame. Expe­ri­ence works for us, updat­ing what we already know, and bring­ing to a more per­fect look the leaky areas that we for some rea­son for­got about.

Pho­to: otroshko.ru

3. New ways, improvement

Evo­lu­tion­ary the­o­rists argue that the brain pays spe­cial atten­tion to what catch­es us off guard so that we are bet­ter pre­pared to inter­act with the out­side world next time. The human brain even has a kind of built-in nov­el­ty detec­tor, a region of the brain that gen­er­ates chem­i­cal sig­nals that stim­u­late mem­o­ry when some­thing new and unusu­al hap­pens. …> We all have to learn the hard way from time to time, and our brains record it so we remem­ber what we learned. Such lessons are hard to for­get. This is a dif­fi­cult, but effec­tive and nec­es­sary way of devel­op­ment.

Mag Jay, Amer­i­can psy­chol­o­gist

An error in work will become a moti­va­tion to come up with new approach­es and ways of devel­op­ment in this mat­ter. Neg­a­tive expe­ri­ences will become a mark­er of what to avoid. Ulti­mate­ly, this will lead to a bet­ter ver­sion of your­self. Every expe­ri­ence is based on this.

Mag Jay also notes: “Peo­ple who are char­ac­ter­ized by the so-called devel­op­men­tal mind­set are con­vinced that a per­son can change and suc­cess is an achiev­able quan­ti­ty. Per­haps not every­one can con­quer the high­est peaks, but with­in cer­tain lim­its a per­son can learn and devel­op. Peo­ple with an evolv­ing mind­set are also some­times sen­si­tive to fail­ure, but they see it as an oppor­tu­ni­ty for growth and change.”

By start­ing with a mis­take, you can upgrade the spe­cif­ic skill that failed you in the first place. Let the neg­a­tive moments hap­pen ear­li­er, because this way you can learn from them faster.